June 7, 2019 . . . . 13 years ago - June 7, 2010 - the day I thought we got the worse news we could receive as a family. Murph was diagnosed with Colon Cancer Stage 4, it was also in his liver. Since that time he has been a 3 time Survivor of Colon, Liver and Lung Cancer. But it was not been an easy road for him.
But that all changed the morning of November 2nd, 2017. Murph passed away in his sleep. It was such a shock to all of us. He had beat the damn cancer 4 times and started treatment for the 5th time on November 1st. Even his doctors were surprised, at his passing. He never got to the point that they thought he was not going to make it. Any of you who knew him, remarked through it all, how he remained positive and believed in the power of prayer.
Maybe it was denial on our part, but we never talked about him not making it. We had been together since we were kids - I was 17 and he was 19 when we started dating. Then we got married on July 7th, 1973. We celebrated 44 years married. We always talked bout growing old together and I guess we thought since our parents had long lives, so would we. My parents were 87 and 92 when they passed and his were 81 and 93. We were so lucky to have our parents for so long, I just wish our children had the same luck. Even though I was mad at God for taking him so quickly without warning, I was thankful that he did not have to go through hospice or we had to watch him in more pain than he had. I thank God everyday for bringing him into my life and giving us such a beautiful famiy. He did find out in the week prior to his death that he was going to have 2 new grandsons in the Spring. He was very happy and looking forward to their arrival. He was such a wonderful husband, father, grandfather, sibling and friend. Erin and Dan blessed us with their son, Kilian Murphy Okrzesik on March 22nd. He joined his sisters Bridget (9) and Hannah (6). Then we were blessed again on April 16th, when Maverick Jay Murphy joined Shawn and LT (Lauren) along with Maverick (5) and McKinley (3).
Even though it has been almost 16 months since he passed, I am still having a hard time with my heart catching up to what my head knows ~ he is not going to walk through the front door. But I am thankful my family and friends are helping me.